Guilt trips. Passive Aggression. Self putdowns. They're all things that I've found myself to be really susceptible to, and I cave all the time. Do you have things that you find yourself kowtowing to constantly? Or people?
I've been really trying to get away from that. I don't like feeling used. I've been trying to adopt a stronger resolve, and to be more resistant when those aforementioned methods of manipulation are used on me. I feel like people will think that, when I don't cave like I used to, that I've become a harder person, that I don't care, that I'm mean, and I don't like that much, either. But I'm not sorry for becoming stronger, I think it's a good thing. In a roundabout way, it's actually allowed me to be a much better wife and mom, and I can't be sorry for that. I just don't want to be the girl that allows herself to be so manipulated anymore.
Don't you allow yourself, either. Folks who use manipulation to make you change who you are aren't really your friends, and you're worth more than that.