So I got my hair cut, and I rejoined that gym. I bought a new dress. My friends took me out to brunch and told me how much better off I was without him. How I was more than he deserved. How I was lucky to be free again.
And maybe I'm right.
But relationships don't exist in vacuums, and their demise doesn't lie on the shoulders of any single one of us. We ended because of things he did, yes. But we ended because of things I did, too. And things he didn't do and things I didn't do. And things we did and didn't do together.
And while my friends are taking me out to brunch and telling me how much better off I am now... I know that his friends are doing the same thing. Taking him out for drinks, telling him I was crazy, and that he's way better off without me, how lucky he is to be free again.
Maybe they're right too. Maybe everyone is right.
But... as much as I toss my head and bring up every one of his offenses... as often as I say, "Well, it's his loss!" If I'm honest? If I'm truly honest and I look deep into my heart, I know that the loss is mine, too.
And maybe we're better off apart, maybe that's true. But I loved what we were when we were together, too. And so I miss that... and I grieve that...
It wasn't just his loss. It was ours.