Wednesday, September 18, 2013
Forgiven, but not Forgotten
It seems that there should be some middle ground there and I'm trying to find it.
I want to be the kind of person who can have the courage to extend grace to those who have been hurtful. But, I also want to be wise and not invite in disaster. It's like if someone came into your house, totally trashed it, and then left -- without a second thought or a care for what they left you with. It is a good thing, I think, to be able to forgive them for their actions and their thoughtlessness. But, would you let them back in to do it a second, third, fourth time?
I guess that's the rub. -- But it's also what I think about on both sides of the coin. I haven't always been faultless either. I've made choices that I wish I hadn't, said things that I wished I'd kept silent on. So, when I'm faced with someone else's mistrust, I have to understand that and not be angry over it. I have to understand that maybe they're struggling with forgiveness and the ability to trust, too.
That we're all trying to find that middle ground.