Have you ever tried beating a dead horse?
Not a real dead horse. I HOPE not a real dead horse!
But I mean, just a situation where you butt up against a dead end... the proverbial dead horse... and you just keep ramming into it, hoping that if you ram enough times, then the dead end will change. The horse will get up and be undead.
But the thing about dead ends and horses is that... beating on them doesn't change anything. It just wears us out and makes us look a little crazy.
Sometimes you have to accept that your horse is gone and your road is ended. You have to accept that someone is like they are and you can't change them, or that the situation is unfixable. Accepting those things doesn't mean that you've lost. It means that you're finally being honest.
And when you accept that there are things you can't change, you have a couple of choices. You can accept that it is so, and you can decide that it doesn't have to affect who you are, and you can move on along the same path. Or you can also decide that what can't be changed isn't worthy of you, and that you need to find a whole different road to walk down.. and you move on.
But both ways? They both begin with you having the courage to accept that there are things that you can't change... and they end with you moving on.
The horse has been beaten enough.