I have three daughters.
One of the things I've tried to teach them and get them to understand is that I know it's hard sometimes to have sisters. They get in your way. They steal your stuff. They leave their stuff around your stuff and your stuff gets sister cooties. They tease you sometimes and they hurt your feelings and they're just plain annoying. I get that. I'm the eldest of three girls myself.
But, the second you step out the door, you put those things away. Because your sisters are your family. And you protect them and you take care of them, and your very sisterhood is the wall that attackers have to face to get to you. And that is some wall. Because you can do what you want to me... but if you even think about attacking my sisters, I will take you down.
I had the opportunity this morning to see that some of that has actually sunk in. I can't tell you the circumstances out of respect for my teenage children -- but I started on my run this morning, with tears running/freezing down my cheeks and the thought, "DAMN but I have great kids."
The thing is.. it's not just about being blood sisters. This always goes in waves, especially on the internet, but I feel like I've seen a lot of "stuff" in my social media feeds lately where we're just attacking each other all the time. Attacking each other's bodies, our hopes, our fears. Fighting over politics and religion and history. Insulting each other's likes and loves and desires. Arguing over food choices and music and whatever!
Ladies... we've got to have each other's backs. What do we get out of fighting over all these things? What do we get out of tearing each other down?
Nothing. We get nothing.
And I'm not talking about some grand feminist burn-all-the-bras sisterhood thing... I'm just saying -- We have to have each other's backs. We have to be there for each other. We have to be kind to each other and supportive and encouraging.