But there are other things that I get to choose. I can choose to be kind and compassionate. I can choose to be bitchy and cruel. I can choose to be considerate and I can choose to be rude. (Truth? I have chosen all of them at different times.) They are behaviors and actions and words that I get to choose to make.
So, think about it. Who do you want to be? What kind of person do you want to be?
Sometimes, other people make it really hard for you to be that person. Don't they? You start out doing a pretty good job making the choices you want to make... and then, people enter the equation and mess you all up!
I used to get really worked up over people saying things to me, saying things about me. I have a good friend who would say to me, "Jo... you've got to learn to let that stuff roll off your back. Why do you care? Their opinion isn't really that important." I knew that was good advice, but I just couldn't figure out how to follow it.
Time has gone on, and I'm better at it. I'd be lying if I said I had it down, but I'm better. I saw a great graphic on Pinterest the other day that really summed this up for me.
I loved this -- because it's true. The less you let yourself get upset by things said to you, about you... the more you are able to be who you want to be. If someone else is bitchy and rude, that's their problem, but it isn't yours. It's only yours if you let their choices become your choices. Let them be who they choose to be.
But you? You be who you have chosen to be.