Friday, March 8, 2013

Important to Be Honest with Yourself

Being honest with yourself... does that register a sigh of resignation for anyone but me? Sometimes I hear that and think, "Do I have to?" It's easier to live in a comfortable state of denial. But, every once in a while, you have to force yourself to take stock of what's what.

Sometimes that means examining your relationships to see if they're really healthy for you. Sometimes that means taking responsibility for your part in making relationships and situations how they are. Sometimes that means realizing that the things you're trying to accomplish aren't actually the things that you want, or that the person you're becoming is not the person that you want to be.

This can be a painful process. It's easier to sort of gloss over the hard parts or the parts that make us look ugly. It's more comfortable to just go along with the status quo of relationships because changing them takes work.

So why? Why do we have to do it?

Well, because.  How else do we keep ourselves on the path to being the best "us" we can be? How else can we make sure that we're following our own dreams? How else do we grow and continue to build our character?

Sometimes your heart lies. It wants what it thinks it wants, and it wants it now.  But sometimes what it wants isn't what it needs. Sometimes you change yourself to be what someone else thinks you should be, and you end up becoming someone you don't want to be. Sometimes you just listen to the world and what it says you should accomplish... and so you go after that, full throttle, only to find out that what the world thinks you should be doing isn't really what you find fulfilling.

I guess that we have to be honest with ourselves so that we can be true to ourselves. So that we can live authentically and fully and healthily. So that the things we need become the things we want, and the potential of who we can be becomes the reality of who we are.

So, every once in a while, it's good to stop, take stock, be honest... and live fully.