Wednesday, February 13, 2013
The Rules of Reading
I have always been a voracious reader of fiction. And when I read, I leave this place and enter the world of wherever the author has taken me. I love this about reading. As my mother and sisters are also voracious readers, this was never something I ever questioned when I was growing up. Everyone knows the rules about reading.
If someone is reading, you leave them alone.
If you choose not to leave them alone and they completely ignore your existence, they aren't being rude. They don't actually even know you're there, so you're not allowed to be offended.
If you choose not to leave them alone and they ignore you and then you get mad and start yelling at them, they are perfectly within their rights to throw a book (though not the one they're reading) at your head. This is not a punishable offense. You were asking for it.
I just assumed everyone knew these rules. But not so.
My husband does not come from a family of voracious readers, so it was baffling to me when we first married and he kept talking to me while I was clearly absorbed in a BOOK. With words in it! And then he would get irritated when I wouldn't pay attention to what he was saying.
Hello! Reading? Book? Why are you even talking to me?
15 years later, we have come to an understanding... which has basically boiled down to If the wife is reading, leave the room quietly. Or not quietly. She probably won't even notice.
Which works just fine for me.