change your own character, not someone else's. Think about that for a minute.
You can only change your
When I began to really internalize that, it was hugely freeing for me. I didn't realize until recently that I'm a bit codependent. I often feel like it's my job to "fix things"... or people even, I guess. I suppose this goes back a long way... I've always felt, in my family, that it was my job to make sure everything was okay. My dad used to call me Perry Mason because I would so go to-bat for my sisters to make sure they were alright. I think that's continued into today. Maybe not so much the "Perry Mason" part, but the feeling responsible for everyone.
But, I'm not. I'm not responsible for everyone. You're not responsible for everyone. It's unhealthy for us to make ourselves responsible for everyone.
When I am tempted to change people because I think they should change (whether that's right or wrong), or when I find myself emotionally obsessing over it, I remind myself "This is not your job. You can only change you."
It at least helps.