"Have you seen my shoes?" My husband yelled up the stairs, trying to get ready for work.
I called back. "Did you check the shoe drawer?" We have this giant drawer built into the wall under the stairs where all the shoes get thrown, jumbled together but out of the way.
"No," came the answer.
I rolled my eyes. "Honey," I began, my tone dripping with syrup. "I'm not helping until you've actually looked where they're--"
"Oh! Here they are!"
To be fair, we have the same conversation in reverse when it comes to my ever-lost carkeys.
It's hard to find things when we're not even bothering to look for them. Maybe it's our carkeys or our shoes. Maybe it's friendship or love. Maybe it's the fulfillment of our dreams that we hope will just fall in our laps, a present of success wrapped up in a shiny silver bow.
We don't find what we don't look for. We DO find what we DO look for.
Are we looking for goodness and kindness in the world? Look for it. Expect it... I think we'll find it. But, when we live our lives expecting people to disappoint us, expecting people to break our trust, expecting to be hurt... we will be. If we don't ever look for good in people and in the world around us, I guarantee that we won't find it.
But when we do look for it? When we do, I think we'll find it in so many unexpected places.
In a kind look from a stranger.
In shared laughter with the lady in front of you at the grocery store.
In the companionship of your friends, in the faith of your children.
In the love of your spouse, and the concern of your mother.
I'm not entirely naive... Looking for good, expecting the good, allowing ourselves to hope for the good... maybe it does set us up for disappointment. Maybe we will encounter times where our hopes are dashed and our trust is violated. We will. People will take advantage of our hearts. But, not everyone will. Some people will come through, and they're worth it. They're worth the hope.
So, keep looking. Keep hoping. Keep trusting. We'll find what we're looking for.
If we keep looking for it.