9. I know what unconditional love feels like.
Maybe you guys can help me with this one.
From a parental and a spousal point of view, I can say with conviction that I absolutely know what this feels like, both to give and receive. From my parents, as their child. From my husband, as his wife. TO my husband, as his wife. And to my children, as their mother.
But, outside the bounds of those relationships, it gets murkier for me, and I find myself continuously bouncing from one extreme to the other. I often feel convicted about loving imperfect people with forgiveness and understanding because I am far from perfect myself, how could I expect others to be? And this makes me want to extend the understanding, offer forgiveness for things that need it, and start again. It makes me want to climb on top of my own hurts, one aching reach at a time, shove it all under the rug, and try to show a heart full of grace.
On the opposite of that, I read things like this:
"Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you. You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot. Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth."Or this and this:
I see the value in these, too... the idea of having enough respect for yourself to not waste it on people who don't respect you, too. And I pretty much ping-pong back and forth.
Do you have any thoughts? Wisdom must lie somewhere in the middle, but I seem to skip over it somehow.