Friday, May 25, 2012

12 Things: Treat Them Well

8. I am good to those I care about.

I would like to be better at this.

I was at a school meeting for one of my children earlier in the week.  After I made a passing reference to her getting mad about something, they asked me what she does when she gets angry.  So I described a typical tantrum.  Her teacher laughed and said, "Well, she definitely doesn't do that here."  Which is good.  I would much rather have her act like a 3 year old at home than at school, and I don't think that's terribly uncommon either.  We act up where we are most comfortable.

On the one hand, maybe there is some value in that. When we are around people we love, and who we know love us back, we relax our guards.  We bring down our walls, and we let them see us for who we really are.  We know they will love us, anyway, so there is less need to keep ourselves in our protective stances.
But... on the other... We stop controlling ourselves, too.  "They'll love me, anyway."  So we work a little less hard to hold our tongues. We let that eyeroll roll on. We exert a little less effort to rein in our impatience.

And we're right.  For the most part, they will love us, anyway. But don't they deserve better?  We're good and kind and friendly to the people we don't know, but then treat those closest to us with less?

So, I want to be better at this...  The people I love deserve that.


  1. I am in agreement with ya! I think it's more noticeable with kids. I used to say, "As long as they behave outdoors." Because I was scared of what other people would say andh ow they would judge me as a mom. But now I wish I had stressed that it's respect and love. Not just behavior. Ah well. Maybe they got that a little bit too.

  2. I try really hard to treat everyone I come into contact with, the way I would like to be treated myself...its something my father instilled into me. I have told my children the same.

    Its hard remembering at times though, and my daughter, now a teenager could do with a few refresher lessons. Then, when I cast my mind back to those days...I was probably the same!

    1. lol Probably. My preteen invariably answers the "How would you feel if...?" with a sullen "I wouldn't care." Uh huh. Sure you wouldn't. ;)


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