I read a post on another website last week, and I liked it so much... or at least it made me think so much that I wanted to continue the conversation and thoughts over here. The post talked about 12 things that we should be able to say about ourselves, and I wanted to explore how true each of those was for me.... and for you, if you'd like to play along.
1. I am following my heart and intuition.
Perhaps this is merely a side effect of youth, but I've found that I have spent much of my adult (and surely teenaged) years molding myself into someone that I felt other people wanted me to be. If I had a group of friends that acted or believed a certain way, well then, I'd carefully mold myself into being more like that. It wasn't even so much a matter of lying about who I was, except perhaps to myself. I browbeat myself into changing who I was until I had actually become someone different... At the same time, it wasn't really me and so I wasn't happy.
When my children were younger, I really thought that I would become a contributing member of our school's PTA when they reached school age. I really did. It seemed like something I'd enjoy doing. Then, school age got here. We live in a nice area. Most of the families who live here are well-off, and a lot of the moms lean toward the Stepford. That isn't me. At all. We're financially comfortable, but I grew up pretty poor. Government cheese, dry milk, and popcorn is what we grew up on. (Well, minus the government cheese for me, please.) I tried to be Stepfordish. But, I just couldn't do it. Eventually, I simply gave myself permission to... not.
For me, I think that's a lot of it, giving myself permission. Not just about PTA, but everything. I give myself permission to read. I give myself permission to write, and to write what I want to write. I give myself permission to think my thoughts and not worry about what other people think of those thoughts, or even if they agree with me. Why is that even important? I give myself permission to be friends with who I want to be friends with, to be kind to who I want to be kind to, and honestly to not hang out with who I don't want to spend time with.
Once I started doing that (and I'm still learning to do it), I found myself in the midst of a lot more happiness. I think it was simply just a lot more being myself, and a lot less making myself be someone that I wasn't.
Is there anything you need to give yourself permission to do and be?
Original Thought Credit: Marc and Angel Hack Life's 12 Things You Should Be Able to Say About Yourself