(I promised him he could have J Day.)
Five Reasons Joel (My Husband) Is Cool
(Please do not tell him I wrote this list. Our marriage works on a very carefully managed balance in which we keep each other's heads from blowing up from our own mutual coolness factors. *nods*)
1. He's super smart. Like... really super smart. People ask me what Joel does for Microsoft, and my answer is usually "I have no idea." That's not entirely true, I SORT OF have an idea. And if you pressed me, I could give you a general ballpark answer. But the truth is that it is very far over my head, and I've learned over the last seven years that just about the time I figure out what he does, he changes positions or groups or his group gets re-orged, and then I have to start all over again. So... it saves me a lot of energy to just tell you "He's super smart but I have no idea what he does."
3. He's funny. I mean, he's REALLY funny. Not everyone knows this because he's also kind of shy and will take some time to warm up to you before he lets that out. But, he's really funny. (Seriously, if you tell him I said this, I will have to unfriend you. Our relationship depends on us pretending that we don't think our spouse is seriously the funniest person alive.) He makes me laugh all the time. Someday, I will tell you one of his favorite jokes. It's not a GOOD joke, mind you. It's terrible. It's long. It goes on forever and 18 days. And the pay-off is... non-existent. But, he just enjoys it so dang much.
5. He's a pretty fine husband, too. I'm difficult. Let's just admit that. I'm high maintenance and I'm moody. But, for some reason, he loves me. He works hard as a provider. He works hard as a dad, and he works hard as a husband. He's not a "flowers every week" kind of a guy, but the things he does are GOOD. I remember when we were dating, he gave me a tape of this one song. And I will never forget when he said "I've been saving that for a long time... I've just been waiting for someone I cared enough about to give it to." On my 17th birthday, he made the most romantic date ever. On our 1000th day of being married, he took me out on a date we could barely afford with 1000 pennies. It was his idea to return to where we spent our honeymoon to celebrate our 10th wedding anniversary. He DOES bring me flowers, but it's on days I don't expect it. "You sounded like today's been a hard day, so I thought you might like these." He randomly brings me home lattes and frappaccinos. He apologizes when he feels like he's said something that he didn't mean, or that just came out wrong. I have the most up-to-date computer in the world because it's what he does, and it's one thing he knows he can do to take care of me. and I realize that, to someone else, having the most up to date computer in the world is not the most romantic thing ever. But I know that I have it because he loves me, and maybe that sounds weird... But I understand that it's his way of saying "I love you and I want you to know that you're important to me."
I'm a lucky girl, friends. Very lucky.