While I don't remember the person or the infraction, I remember the
moment clearly. I was out to lunch with my three impressionable girls. The Disney Channel, and its many leading ladies, were the focus of many starry-eyed gazes. Over dessert, one of my girls spoke, "Did you hear about *
Insert Idolized Actress Here*? I heard that she got arrested for
*Insert Infraction Here*." It could have been drugs, it could have been a DUI. It doesn't really matter. What mattered was the immediate dousing of the light in their eyes, the understanding that the person they had held up as wonderful and amazing and WOW... was maybe not as wonderful as they had previously thought. As a mom, I sighed. As a fellow girl, and maybe just person, I was sad, knowing this wouldn't be the first time.
... because we do it, too, don't we? Even as grown-ups, even when we know in our heads that the
people we idolize (whether they be sports figures, actors, musicians, authors, etc) are really just normal people, there is something that dies in us just a little bit when we're faced with their very real humanity. We want them to be "more than," we want them to be worth the devotion we give them. And when we find out that maybe they're not, when they lose some of our
respect, it's sad and it's hard and it's disappointing.
And maybe that's inevitable and just a part of life.
as a young innocent, it is a little heartbreaking to hear bad news & reality of those we esteem, but it is also part of growing up, examples of good and bad choices, no matter who you are...
ReplyDeleteConsider the teaching moment when you encounter those sorts of events though. You could either go with the whole, people make mistakes and sadly so and so's happen to be made public because of their status or the cautionary tale that the commercial vehicle which brought them status has too much of an iron grip on them and this is why they act out and how much less of an iron grip you have on your children (okay that doesn't make sense to me right now either but you know what I mean.)
ReplyDeleteI learned this lesson in Hollywood. My husband was working there a lot and the reality of the business was thrust in our faces. It is disappointing. I will never look at the entertainment world the same again.
ReplyDeleteI'm not even star-struck. My husband & I used to shop at the one and only grocery store in Malibu. I saw this guy that I thought was attractive and he ended up getting in line behind my husband & I. It wasn't until we were leaving that I realized it was Tony Danza. I just thought he was some cute Italian guy:)
"I will never look at the entertainment world the same again." I know what you mean...
Deleteha on Tony Danza...
Yes, you're absolutely right Jo. Funny you should write about this: I was watching the news this morning and heard Morgan Freeman is set to marry his step-granddaughter. REALLY MORGAN? I thought he was wonderful but he's now stepped down a peg or three in my eyes.
ReplyDeleteSigh...
Ew. that is all.
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