It's one of my favorite moments from the Jim Henson movie, "Labyrinth." In the final climactic scene, Sarah finds herself running through the monologue she recited at the beginning of the movie, again getting stuck on what that final line is supposed to be. Finally, she looks up as her memory is triggered... but it's not just memory that is in her eyes, but recognition and wisdom and triumph as she tells the Goblin King-- "You have no power over me."
I think that moment is powerful for us, too. To look that and those which knock us down in the face and tell them that they have no power over us... it's a strong moment.
I read this yesterday and it really spoke to me:
If you want to forget someone, and move on, you must give up hating them. It's impossible to forget someone you hate, because hate takes pieces of your heart - thereby keeping this person within your heart.
When we hold on to anger and hatred toward people, we give them the power to control us. Despite what we think is our best efforts to forget them, we can't because we haven't yet let go of the venom. And so, they remain with the power to make us guarded, self-conscious, over-self-protective, victimized, angry, whatever. It's only by letting go of the hate and anger that we can truly give them up and move on with our lives.
I think that's sometimes a lot easier said than done. I'm not sure that it's so much that the anger is so hard to let go of... but, especially if it's related to someone you once cared about, maybe sometimes there's a part of you that doesn't want to let go. At least, when you're angry, there's still SOME emotion there, even if it's an unpleasant one, and you don't have to close the book. But, if you let go of that too, it means that it really is truly over. Sometimes that's hard to accept.
But, you can't start a new chapter until you've finished the one that came before. Sometimes you have to close the book. Sometimes you have to cut the final string and embrace the future that is waiting for you, if you can just let go of the past.