Something I've been thinking on with absolutely no conclusions... Today is not a 'complete thought' sort of day, but you can come along while I think.
Sometimes I feel pulled between two seemingly-conflicting mindsets:
1. "It's not the people that stand by your side when you're at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you're at your worse that are your true friends."
2. "Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. If someone wants you in their life, they'll make room for you. You shouldn't have to fight for a spot. Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth... The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special, too."
But... I find the flipside, too, to be something to be believed in. There comes a point in your relationships where you have to take an honest look and accept that the people you love don't also love you. When you get there, you have to take the hard step and leave it behind. It hurts to do that. For so long, you live in a place of "things could be different if only..." But, you can't live in if-only's, and there is always a place where you have to have more respect for yourself than you've been giving. You have to be able to get to a place where you can assert, "I'm worth more than this" and act on it.
The tug-o-war between these two ties me in knots sometimes. I suppose the biggest question mark is just knowing when "standing by in love" becomes "being a doormat." I want the former. I don't want the latter. But sometimes my desires to be a good friend and my beliefs in respecting yourself just leave me feeling conflicted and confused.
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