Saturday, November 13, 2010

A Personal Challenge

"Be the actor of your own life and not the spectator of mine."  

That's perhaps worded more strongly than I would write the sentiment... but maybe it's the force of the statement that made me sit up and wince.  Have you ever been guilty of this?  I know I have.  What is it that makes us get so focused on what the people around us are doing, and completely neglect to give the same attention to our own actions?

"Did you see what Jessica wore to the party on Friday??"  "Have you heard what Kevin said to Terri?"  "Can you believe the way Erin was throwing herself at Rick?"  "Dear Jesus... please forgive Lori for her drinking problem."

On the one hand, I'm not sure what it is that makes us think that we are so perfect that we could survive the same scrutiny from those around us.  But on the other, if we gave the same attention to our own actions, devoted the same energy that we do to criticizing others' faults to minimizing our own, concentrated on making our own lives better, rather than ripping others' apart... how much richer would our lives be?

I challenge myself to this in the coming week...  every time I'm tempted to criticize someone else for the choices they've made or the actions they're taking, I will instead look to myself and find something personal to devote that energy to.

We'll just see what ends up happier...


  1. Thank You Jo! That is a very strong statement and so very true. We all need to take heed to this. I have caught myself in the same situation several times, and I myself need to change my outlook on life in general and my attitude in particular. We would all be happier if we would just go by this. Thanks Again. :)

  2. Yes! This is the opposite side of the coin of what I wrote, and SO TRUE! I know I am needing to take my focus on figuring out WHY someone else has done something. There's no way I can figure it out anyway, and plenty of WHY's in my own life that could use my attention. Yep!


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